what really happened?
we've been lucky to have good maids all these while.
except for one which got sent back immediately. (she was a little psycho)
my first maid was aunty nida who saw me grew up till about 6 years old?
even after she left to work in hongkong, we still kept in touch through letters and once in a while, she would call to talk to my grandma (there were communication barrier tho)
when we went over to hk once, she made a trip down just to see us.
then we lost touch until 2years ago i received her letter 2months before i moved. (lucky!)
i replied and told her i will send her another letter with my new address.
i forgot about it and i misplaced that particular letter with her address on it! (HOW TO SEND LIKE THAT!)
hate myself for this.
I NEED THE LETTER TO APPEAR BEFORE MY EYES!
presently, my maid (jati), well not my maid anymore since we're not living under the same roof but anyway, she's a good maid, for 5 years plus.
like i hear stories from friends complaining about how 'dumb' their maids are, how they like to act pretty in front of the mirror, why they're so lazy, why their maids cannot last 3months etc,
jati is none of that.
and i went to a friend's house for project and i saw how she treats her maid, i dont really like it.
my friend's 10 yrs older by the way.
her tone when she talk to her maid is as if she's ordering her to do something.
you can tell how 'scared' and timid she feels.
the maid is not allowed to share plates and utensils with anybody in the house.
excuse me but why is that necessary?
it's not like she has some disease.
it's not like she's dirty.
she's just a normal human being like you and me right?
your plates and utensils are so precious to you is it?
it's sad enough that she has to leave her family and come all the way to a foreign land so that her family can have a better living.
she miss her family so why cant families in singapore just show them some family love and integrate them into the family?
i know of some people who will not allow their maid to have her meal on the same table as them.
utter ridiculous.
we're happy to have meals with jati on the same table when my grandma comes over to stay.
she eats what we eat. (besides pork)
when we go out to eat, my mum will give her $4-$5 to buy what she wants to eat on top of sharing small dishes with us.
i'll share my tidbits with her and ask her to just help herself anytime.
i even share drinks with her with the same straw sometimes.
what is wrong with that?
i'm not trying to boast how good we treat a maid but i just want to show that jati is like a family to us.
everyone in the family including my aunties and uncles talk to her like friends.
sometimes jati will tell me little secrets that happened at home or 'complain' to me.
dont you think if your maid feel integrated in the family,
she'll clean the house like it's her home?
maids SHOULD NOT be working under fear.
dont think you show her your fierce side she'll feel scared then she wont dare to do anything wrong.
dont be surprised.
do not keep trying to find faults with your maid.
if she did something wrong, TEACH her what's right and dont keep scolding her! (unless you teach her like 10times but it still doesn't gets in then something is seriously wrong)
if you teach her right the first time, it'll save you a lot of time and effort in the future.
lots of patience is needed in the beginning though.
jati will not be extending her contract when the current one ends because she wants to be with her daughter and family.
THIS IS BAD for us but good for her.
so if your maid is not doing a good job in the cleaning, reflect on how you're treating her first.
then again, you shouldnt be treating her extremely nice JUST BECAUSE YOU WANT YOUR HOUSE TO BE DIRT FREE.
if someone tells me that maids can only be kept for 2 years because then they will surely go astray,
i'll proudly tell them that
MY MAIDS ALL LAST FOR MORE THAN TWO YEARS,
FOUR TO SIX YEARS THANK YOU.
my aunt's maid has been working for her for TWENTY over years already.
please change that misconception.
change every 2 years, you like training maids a lot is it?
so, integrate your maid into your family.
treat her like she's your big sister.
=))))))
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